HOLY COW I’M 50! Patti Diener Looking Back

  Time flies,

that is what they said and they, (the proverbial they being mostly my father but everyone older than me too), were correct. I cannot even believe today I turned 50 years old. I really don’t know where all the time went. But it’s just a number.

I spent time with a dear friend the other night over cocktails and the only thing I could say about turning 50 was that I really, with all my heart, feel like the second half of my life is going to be the best. Not that all the milestones getting here weren’t wonderful. I cannot express my gratitude for being blessed with my beautiful children, or for having such a great husband and fantastically supportive family. But there is something to be said for being a “woman of a certain age.” Frankly, I love it!

Being an empty nester took some getting used to but that too is quite lovely. When my man is out doing his thing and I don’t have anyone to cook for, I DON’T. That being said, I still eat well. I love food and not garbage food. I can eat my foo-foo food that Hubby doesn’t usually eat, (kale, quinoa salad not his thing). Then of course there is the time to write without guilt and that is also a pleasure.

 The above pic was Saturday when I was home alone and in the middle of a writing marathon and didn’t want to cook. Win-win, as far as I could tell. Then the writing continued.

Looking back on my life thus far, I can say I am more myself now than I ever was before. This is because I am finally accepting myself for exactly who I am. I don’t feel any need to impress, put up a front, or put on airs. I’m just me and I am enough. Believe me, that is saying a lot. I suppose plenty of women have gone through that and hopefully most of us get over it. But I really feel good about who I am now and that in itself is a feat.

The things that I was hung up on before are gone, freeing me to be more creative and I found I’m pretty damn good company. I don’t have to be entertained in any way by anyone. Although I love spending time with my family and friends, I can be alone and not feel lonely. If I’m perfectly honest with myself, I have always been that way. I just didn’t accept it.

Growing up, I fell in love with books, reading and writing. I’d lock myself up in my room and read for hours or write stories or poetry. Any writer will tell you that is a solitary lifestyle and if you let others into that world, they must be very special. I have many wonderful people that I love and love me, but they are the ones that understand my need to be alone to write. They support my crazy desire to create and dream. They understand when I go incommunicado for lengthy times and don’t hold it against me. I’m pretty blessed.

So I’m on the brink of publishing my first novel and have a second one in the wake. I am starting my third blog that will be out, (I hope) by next month called, romancetravelandfood.com  but it hasn’t launched yet so be on the look out. I’ve already set up the website, purchased my URL and security needed to run it. I also created a new email address for it so between all that and working full time, I’m one busy gal… but I’m LOVING EVERY MINUTE OF IT!

 Life is a journey

and I’m looking forward to more traveling, more time with my husband, and more quality time with my family. Although as I say, I’ve come late to the party in my writing career as a published author, I’m gonna tackle that too, and write as many books as I can get in before my time is up. Even though there are more books out there than I will ever have time to read, and I know I won’t be able to write every single story idea I come up with in the time I have either, I’m still going to enjoy trying every single day.

 

 

The Edited Opening Scene/ After The Fire

 As promised,

here is the edited opening scene with the addition of Sarah’s point of view. I hope you like it. This will be longer than a regular blog post so, sit back, grab a beverage, ( if you are like me, coffee or wine depending on the time of day), and enjoy. Happy reading friends.

After the Fire

By Patricia Diener

 

Gabriel was in a foul mood. The excavating company he worked for brought him to this rural community in northern California, to clean up after the big Valley Fire swept through and destroyed over 1,000 homes. It wasn’t the work that was upsetting. It was the fact that it was the holidays now, and that particular time of year always left him blue. He thought being in a strange place would distract him. The truth was it made him feel more alone than ever.

He was staying in the only large hotel chain in the area. The Best Western was the tallest building in the small town of Clearlake, reaching 4 stories high. At least he didn’t have to share a room with one of the guys. Being a foreman, he got a room paid for by the company all to himself. That way he could sulk alone.

Three years earlier, just before Christmas, he was traveling on Interstate 680 outside of Fremont with his girlfriend Shelly. They were on their way to her parent’s house to stay for the holidays. Gabe had been living with Shelly in the Bay Area city of San Ramon for over a year, and since his family was back in Oklahoma, Shelly’s family was who they were celebrating with.

It was raining that Christmas Eve, and it was all over before Gabe even knew what hit them. The papers said the multi-car pileup on the freeway was caused by poor weather conditions, limited visibility, and high speeds. Gabe suffered his share of injuries, a fractured  arm, clavicle, ribs, and punctured lung, but Shelly’s side of the car was what took most of the hit. The doctors said she died instantly.

Gabe stayed in California and continued to work for the excavating company as a heavy equipment operator. He was reluctant to stay because his family in Oklahoma pleaded with him to come home, but Tommy Dermont, the owner of the excavating company, seemed to understand what Gabe needed. Work. It was decent pay and moving to a neighboring city of Danville, he tried to keep his mind off of Shelly.

Coming to Lake County, to help rebuild the lives of so many that lost everything in the Valley Fire, he thought would lift his spirits. Being lonely around the holidays was just something he couldn’t shake. This particular Friday he thought of driving the 3 hours back to his apartment in Danville, but going to an empty place just didn’t sound like it would help. Maybe if he had a dog or something. But alone was still alone. He decided to just stay on at the hotel and go grab a drink in the lobby bar.

After showering and shaving, Gabe decided to head downstairs and grab a burger at the bar and a few beers. Maybe watch some football on the TV, if it was on. He knew most of the guys would probably be headed back to the city by now but that suited him just fine. He’d seen them all week, and he wasn’t particularly close friends with any of them. Gabriel was somewhat of a loner, not trusting his heart to rely on a single soul.

To his surprise, the small town bar was slammed and lively. There were loads of people shooting pool, watching the game, and talking loudly over the jukebox. Behind the bar they had three bartenders, one woman and two men.

Walking up to the bar, Gabe waited to make eye contact with one of the bartenders to place his order. There was one lone seat at the far left of the bar, furthest away from the television, but closest to the kitchen entry. He could smell the aroma of cooking onions, and sizzling beef. Suddenly he was famished.

“What’s your pleasure my man?” The gentleman taking Gabe’s order had deep dimples that accompanied a kind smile.

“Oh, a Coors Light please, and can I order food?”

“Of course. Do you need a menu or can I make a suggestion?” the bartender asked.

“Um…well, sure. What do you recommend?”

“Well, the chicken fried steak is always good, but my personal Friday Night fav is a thick, juicy burger with sautéed onions. We have shoestring fries that go great with it too.”

Gabriel thought the guy read his mind and quickly agreed to the burger and fries. The cheery bartender winked at him and said he’d place the order right away. The long-neck bottle of Coors Light was placed in front of Gabe as the bartender disappeared into the kitchen.

The Stanford game was on the TV but the sound of Bruno Mars was blaring out from the jukebox. Gabe swiveled his barstool around to survey the room while taking a long swig off his beer. The group was mostly his age or younger.

At 33, Gabe was an old soul. He never was a big partier and preferred more intimate gatherings. But somehow, being swallowed up in a crowd right now seemed more comforting. It was easier than being back in the city, with Shelly’s and his friends feeling sorry for him. Nobody knew him here, or his story, and that’s the way he liked it.

The woman bartender appeared quickly in front of Gabe, placing his plated burger in front of him along with a bottle of ketchup. She gave a brief smile and quickly walked away to grab a chilled wine glass and a bottle of chardonnay to pour for another customer.

Just as his dimpled bartender promised, the burger was just what Gabe needed. The crisp, salty fries were cooked to perfection and he washed it all down with the beer. Before he could even ask for another, the guy just appeared in front of Gabe with a knowing look.

“Ready for another cold one?” The bartender leaned over to grab Gabe’s empty bottle.

“Yea, you have great timing,” Gabe said.

As the bartender reached into a refrigerator under the counter, Gabe took a better look at him. The guy seemed a little older than he was with slightly weathered good looks. His light brown hair was a little long, and he was around Gabe’s height. When he set the beer down, Gabe could see he had deep-set, dark eyes that smiled just like his dimples. Although he was tanned, somehow, Gabe knew it wasn’t from being on the lake a lot. This guy seemed more like the outdoorsy, working kind of guy, like Gabe himself. That and his hands looked rough like Gabe’s. This guy didn’t spend his time inside bartending for his main living that was for sure.

“So, what do you do?” Gabe asked as he took a swig of beer.

“Well right now, I’m your friendly neighborhood bartender. But I dabble in many fields. How about you?” the bartender asked.

“I’m here with the contractors for the fire clean up. I’m staying at the hotel.”

“I’m surprised you didn’t head out this evening like the others then. Don’t feel like going home for the weekend?” he asked.

“Let’s just say, I can be just as occupied here as there.” Gabe replied, having another pull on his bottle.

“Well, it’s a pleasure having you here. I know there are a lot of folks really grateful for any help speeding up the recovery process. That fire really kicked this community’s ass. Folks need hope, ya know?” The bartender got distracted by something and Gabriel turned his barstool to see what was going on.

Three women were heading into the bar. The first was a lovely blonde with typically over-highlighted hair, jeans and heels. The next was a brunette in a long-sleeved dress and high-heeled boots. Finally, somewhat behind and entering more slowly, was a thin, honey haired girl with her head down. She wore simple jeans, tennis shoes, and a flannel shirt with a tank-top under it. When she looked up in the direction of her friends, her light green eyes were piercing, and something caught in Gabe’s chest.

“Things are hummin’ in here tonight. Let me know if I can get you anything else,” the bartender said walking into the kitchen.

“Ok, thanks,” Gabe replied without turning his barstool back. He was watching the girls settle into a corner table in the back of the room.

“You, uh…Ok there my friend?” the bartender asked when he returned.

Gabriel realized he was rude and momentarily lost concentration. He had to almost shake his head in order to look away from the green-eyed girl.

“Sorry, man. No, I’m just fine, thanks,” Gabe smiled somewhat embarrassed.

“It’s understandable. I’m guilty of the same distractions,” the bartender said while staring in the girl’s direction himself. Suddenly, Gabriel looked at the guy and saw a dark shadow fall over the face of his otherwise cheerful bartender. “If you will excuse me, I need to grab some stuff, but I will be back,” and the bartender disappeared down the hallway.

When Gabe returned his attention back to the girls, he saw a waitress over taking their orders. He didn’t want to seem too obvious with his intrigue, so he turned his barstool sideways to watch the TV screen and pretend to be interested in the game.

Gabe hadn’t dated or even thought of dating anyone since Shelly. He just didn’t have the heart to let go of the past yet, despite all Shelly’s and his friends trying to set him up. He insisted it was too soon and he wasn’t ready to even think about it. They respected his wishes and left it alone. So that is exactly what Gabe was getting use to. Being alone.

A strange feeling came over him though, sitting in that bar, and her quiet, solitary mood, drew Gabriel to look at her again. She looked like he felt, when HE was with his friends. Distracted, and uncomfortable, but trying to go along with the facade of the evening, she sipped her wine and looked around the room.

Suddenly, the girl locked eyes with Gabe and he felt a rush of heat flush his chest and face. She’d caught him looking with fixated eyes on her. Gabe tried to slowly, casually turn his barstool back towards the TV.

“Be careful with that one,” the bartender said pulling Gabriel from his fog.

“What are you talking about?” Gabe pretended. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself that he felt interested in a woman, much less admit it to anyone else.

“She’s fragile. Don’t give it another thought unless you can respect that about her.”

Gabriel looked into the bartender’s eyes. He was dead serious.

“Not that I’m interested, but I take it you know her.”

“Everyone does,” he said. “She’s as local as it gets. But she’s had her fair share of hard knocks so, that’s why the warning.”

“Broken heart or…” Gabe’s question was left hanging in the air as the bartender stared at her pondering a response.

“More like shattered. She’s not recovered. Oh, she puts on a brave face, but…Anyway, it will take a very special guy for her to ever trust again,” and the bartender turned and started washing dishes.

Gabe drank more of his beer and turned his stool back to look towards the girl’s table. The green-eyed girl was shyly glancing towards Gabe periodically but then turned her chair to face her friends more directly. Gabe got the hint.

“Must have been some stupid guy to hurt a girl like that,” Gabe said in the bartender’s direction. “I have never been the player some guys are. I know something real when I have it. And anyway, who’s got the time for that?” and he finished off the last of his fries.

The friendly bartender turned and gave a small smile to Gabe, as he took the empty plate away and wiped the counter. “It’s too bad not more people had the same outlook as you. Truth is my friend, that most folks are always looking for the next best thing. Nobody is ever quite satisfied with what they have. Especially if things get rough, that’s when the weak give up.”

“So that’s what happened? Some guy left her in hard times?” Gabe asked.

The face of the bartender seemed pained at the question and soon Gabriel was sorry he asked. It was beginning to look like there was more to this story than the bartender had first let on and Gabe immediately felt like he should retract any further questioning.

“Hey, I don’t mean to pry, you don’t need to answer that. It’s really none of my business,” Gabe offered.

The bartender gave a forced laugh, “No, no. It’s quite alright. It’s just that they were kind of local royalty, ya know. Everyone knew them. And the story has a crazy turn. The guy ended up dying in an accident too. So she was slammed twice..” the bartender waved his arms as if to brush away smoke and memories from right in front of him. “Anyway, what are ya gonna do, right? We all move on and so will she, but everyone here kind of watches out for her. Just so you know,” and he winked at Gabe then walked back into the kitchen with the plate.

He knew he shouldn’t be, but Gabe was now more intrigued than ever about this green-eyed beauty. It seemed so unfair that something as gentle as she could have gone through such trauma. And even though he was always missing Shelly, Gabriel had a yearning to get to know this girl. Approaching her in a bar was NOT the thing to do though, and Gabe knew it. She’d only think he was some slime ball trying to get her into bed. Some, out-of-towner looking for a one night stand. That couldn’t be further from the truth, so he dismissed the idea entirely.

Terrible timing. In the three years since Shelly was gone, nobody and nothing had pulled his heartstrings. Now here he was, just yards from a fragile bird of a girl that he’d love to meet, and he couldn’t even go say hello for fear of her misunderstanding his intentions.

Gabriel thought to order one last beer, just for a reason to stick around, but he was truly full to his eyeballs and there wasn’t going to be an opportunity to speak with this girl tonight without seeming forward anyway. Defeated, he decided to ask for the bill.

When the bartender came back he was carrying one more tray of clean glasses and set them behind the counter.

“Hey man, I think I’m ready to settle up,” Gabe said.

“Sure thing. Gonna turn in already?” he asked as he pulled the bill from his apron.

Gabe smirked and shrugged his shoulders. “Yea, I know it’s a Friday night, but the week has been long and I think I will just fall asleep to the TV.”

“Big partier huh?” the bartender laughed. “I know, I’m pretty much the same. I can’t remember the last time I really tore it up. But I suppose we will be running into each other periodically since you are here for a while.”

“Yeah, that would be great. I’m Gabe, by the way,” and he extended a hand to the bartender.

Wiping his hand off on his apron, he reached to shake Gabe’s hand, “Max, and it’s great you guys are here to clean up so folks can rebuild.”

As he stood to go, Gabe leaned in to ask one last question of Max, even though he wasn’t sure what he’d do with the information.

“Hey, Max? I don’t know why I’m asking, but…what’s her name?”

Max eyes sparkled as he smiled at Gabe, letting him know it was ok that he asked. “Sarah. Her name is Sarah,” and he winked and disappeared back into the kitchen.

 

************

Life for Sarah McKinney hadn’t been easy. The past year had been particularly difficult. The infidelity then sudden death of her young husband brought her to her knees with anguish. She put on a brave face during the day, but each night, with the setting of the sun, her heart sunk with it. Her body was on constant autopilot, going through the motions of life just to get by.

Then the Valley Fire struck, leaving so many of her friends homeless and Sarah found herself compelled to help. Diving into opportunities to serve, Sarah was able to somewhat put her own issues aside.

Her best friends since childhood, Michelle and her husband Caleb, lost everything in the fire. Sarah and Michelle both worked together at Wildhurst Winery and after work, on this particular Friday night, Sarah just wanted to go home, soak her tired body in a tub and drink a glass of wine with Nina Simone playing in the background but Michelle had other ideas.

“We are going out with Stacy, and having a drink at El Grande! It’s Friday night and Caleb has the kids so I want a girl’s night. Come on Sarah. It will do you some good too and I could use some cheering up,” Michelle gave the pouty face to Sarah.

“Of course I’ll go. How can I resist the pouty face?” Sarah said.

The three ladies closed Wildhurst Winery and followed each other to the hotel bar in Clearlake. They walked into the open, four-story, atrium that led them to the bar that was already brimming with loud music.

After taking the last corner table, a waitress came to take their order. Stacy and Michelle ordered cocktails but Sarah stuck with what worked for her. Wine.

“Wow. I almost forgot what going to a bar was like,” Michelle said.

“A few years back and this would have been normal for a Friday night,” Stacy said.

Sarah scanned the room, trying to remember what all the hype was when they partied in their earlier twenties. Being twenty-nine, Sarah felt much older than her years. The crowd in the bar was full of people her own age but still she felt out of place.

“Holy cow,” Stacy said quietly. “Would you get a load of that guy at the end of the bar?”

They all looked up at the man sitting at the far left of the bar nursing a beer and trying to act as if he wasn’t looking at them.

The dark hair, athletic build, and strong jaw line were very appealing, but when the others looked away giggling, Sarah looked back and his cerulean blue eyes nearly stopped her heart. He was definitely not a local.

“Sarah is the only one that could act on this opportunity,” Michelle stated.

Sarah snapped her attention back to the girls. “What are you talking about?”

“You should go over and talk to him. My, my he’s a hunk of burnin’ love,” growled Stacy.

The girls all laughed but Sarah couldn’t imagine doing that.

“Geez, yes. Let us live vicariously through you Sarah. If it weren’t for Caleb I’d be jumping at or on that,” Michelle said drinking from her glass.

“No way. You guys are crazy,” Sarah said casually turning to get a second look at the G.I. Joe stud at the bar.

He was looking at the television but turned just in time to lock eyes with Sarah, leaving her stunned, momentarily paralyzed. His stare bore right into her like he could see and know every part of her. Suddenly, Sarah felt very vulnerable so she turned her chair to face her friends more squarely on.

“This would be a great way for Sarah to get back in the saddle. And by saddle, I mean ride ‘em cowboy!” Stacy snorted a laugh.

Smacking both her friends on their shoulders and struggling to not laugh out loud and make a scene, Sarah protested.

“Oh, I totally agree,” Michelle chimed in. “God knows it would be one helluva release. Hmmm.”

“STOP IT. Are you guys insane? You know there’s no way in hell I’m gonna go talk to him. Oh my God. Quit.”

“Well you might miss your chance. Looks like he’s paying his bill,” Michelle said.

They all watched the muscular guy in tight blue jeans turn to leave and the three women followed him out with their eyes. But there was something in Sarah’s stomach and throat that fluttered. Something that pulled as she watched him open the glass door to the bar and walk out, that felt vaguely familiar. Sipping her wine she realized what it was. Yearning.

*****

*photo from Google Images

A Little About Me / Patti Diener

  When I was growing up

I rarely wore shoes. We only had four to six television channels and I seldom watched that box anyway. I would always rather have been outside in Lower Lake, riding my bike, walking the creek, or playing with my dog, Blue. But the other thing I loved to do with the neighborhood kids was play “library.”

As the librarian, I would take all the books we kids could gather up from each of our collections and make library cards for them. We would share them with a set amount of time… like checking out a book. When that date rolled around, we had to get back together with our books and trade. I would then re-date them for a return date. Little did I know I would end up being a librarian for real in my adult life.

Flash forward, I have read my fair share of books over my almost 50 years of life, (that is still hard for me to admit). I began my love of books early on and at the age of 10 I wrote my first novel. Ok… I didn’t finish it. I started it in the 5th grade and ended my writing of this unfinished book by the 7th grade, but in my defense, I DID gather information from A.A. and wrote by hand over one hundred pages on binder paper, all about a teenage alcoholic. Believe me, Alcoholics Anonymous was amazed and impressed I asked for all the information I did. Still, I didn’t complete the book.

This fire to write has been with me for as long as I can recall. That’s why I find it hard to believe that for awhile, I forgot what my passion was and I stopped writing.

Becoming a mother was something I knew I was destined to do and be. But like so many people I know, I threw myself so completely into this roll that I forgot who I was. I literally stopped caring for my own passions, goals, and dreams. It was far more important to me to succeed in being, “the best mother I could possibly be.”

Today, I happened upon this video with Jada Pinkett Smith, that explains what women do once they become wives and mothers. It’s not like being a wife or mother is bad. Quite the opposite! It’s an honor and blessing beyond anything I can put into words. It’s just that women who learn to balance these rolls along with taking care of themselves, are the ones we should pay attention to. They are the ones who have figured out the secret to truly being happy.

https://youtu.be/FQK9Ufr4yrY

I would invite you to watch this video because she nailed what I have felt and realized far too late in life and wished I had figured out way sooner.

What does this have to do with writing, you might ask. Well, getting back to the part where I stopped writing and forgot who I was, … It was years later when I started to feel lost. I realized the part of me, the CREATIVE part of me I stifled because I foolishly didn’t think I could or should pursue my dreams because I was a mom now. I sort of got lost. When I hit a wall and put my relationships at risk because I was so chronically depressed and angry, I realized something very, very important.

I mattered.

When I started putting my dreams right up there with the rest of my famiy’s dreams as equally important, there was a shift. I will tell you when it happened.

First, to be honest, it happened over a period of time and I didn’t realize it was coming to me. I ignored the signs that something huge was brewing. The desires for art and creativity in my life that were lacking left me thirsty and yearning. Then I saw Nicholas Sparks’ movie, The Notebook.  If you ever saw this film or read the book, there is a scene where Noah knows Allie so well that he leaves her alone one glorious morning with an easel, paints and brushes and arrows paving the way to this surprise. This gesture made me weep. It was then that I asked myself what was my passion? I knew for Allie it was to paint, but for me it was to write.

So I didn’t need my husband to buy me an antique Corona typewriter to fulfill this desire. However, I DID need to give myself permission to have time to write! I have since made sure of it. And once my husband got on board and realized the importance my writing was to me in my life, he suggested I go away to write. “Get a hotel somewhere and write uninterrupted and without guilt,” is what he said.

That is how my novel, After the Fire, was started and the rest you know. I was in a hotel in Fort Bragg, writing a short story inspired by the Valley Fire for a contest and it developed into a novel.

As I’ve said, the editing has been a handful but my next blog entry will show the opening scene with the changes I’ve made. I will share this scene since I already showed some of the book awhile back and you all can read what I’ve come up with. I hope you will like the change in reading Sarah’s point of view as well as Gabriel’s.

Well good night my friends. Thanks for following and as always, sleep well, be well, and read well.

 

 

 

Two Protagonists, Double the Fun

  Hey Gang! Editing is hard work.

It’s only beginning with this rewrite, but my wheels are spinning, the fingers are flying across the chiclet style keys of my laptop, and I am feeling my character Sarah Mckinney, becoming more a part of this story. Her voice will be heard and instead of this novel only coming from the point of view of Gabriel Hart, you will truly understand Sarah now as well. This will be both of their stories.

I’m toying with the idea of giving you readers a preview of what’s to come from Sarah. Probably not the next post, but the following, I will give you a taste of what goes on inside of Sarah McKinney’s head.

Coming to the decision of writing both perspectives was not as difficult as I thought it would be. Actually, since I’ve written these people for the last two years and feel like I know them intimately, (writers will understand), I realized that it was the only logical way to go. I only wish I did it sooner.

 Deadlines are helpful.

I’m giving myself a deadline for having the entire book revised and ready for second editing by mid May. That gives me close to 6 weeks to get it all done. I think it’s doable. If I set my sites on this being the case, I hope to send off my manuscript in June to the agent that was interested at the San Francisco Writers Conference. Just using the Law of Attraction, and Power of Intention. You simply gotta believe.

That’s it for this week folks. I will keep you all up to speed as I’ve promised and in the very near future,  some of Sarah’s pages will be on pattidienerwrites.com for you to see first hand.

And as Stephen King would say, “When you write a book, you spend day after day scanning and identifying the trees. When you are done, you have to step back and look at the forest.”

  • Deadline Ahead photo from Google Images

Romance or Woman’s Fiction? That is the question.

 I set out to write romance

and yet at the end of the day, I’m struggling with what genre my book actually is. What difference does it make, you might be asking. Well a really big one. It all boils down to dollars my friends. Agents have to know exactly what they are getting so they can sell your book and make money, honey.

Here’s the thing, if you don’t stick to a particular genre, then the editor cannot edit the book for that market. If you submit the manuscript to an agent that only likes Romance novels but avoids Woman’s Fiction and your book is just that, then you are going to be rejected. There are very strict guidelines in publishing and I am learning more and more about this. So basically, I am teetering on the brink of going outside of my genre and I have to choose.

After beating my head against a wall and several cups of coffee later, I looked up and it was after 12:00 noon. I’d been at it for hours and I realized I should walk away and gain some perspective.

Spring has sprung and I was happy to be outside. It’s my favorite time of year. The awakening of life and new hope. YEAH! The things we have been putting on hold because of the winter are now going to slowly get started. I am excited to work on our second faze of rebuilding our destroyed backyard from what the Clayton Fire did. Being outdoors and feeling the sun on your face is healing.

My husband worked whenever possible this winter at removing the most dangerous tree debris and hauling out the large logs. Now he is starting to find our old irrigation that was partially damaged from the dozer going through to create a fire break. He has made great progress and hopes to get our lawn in the backyard replanted soon. It’s only ONE of the many things to do out there.

The pictures aren’t the best because my camera is in the shop and I had to use my phone, but the patio was poured last season and I’m loving it! A pergola will be added and our youngest wants an outdoor bar. As you can see, we still have more tree work to do and fencing to repair. It’s a work in progress but coming along. The resilience of Mother Nature is amazing though, and there is much green coming back and our seasonal creek below is still a blessing. Walking around out there made me breath deeply and I smiled, feeling the sun touch my skin.

It made my writing anxiety drift away being outdoors. The temperatures outside today were in the mid 70’s and my tulips and daffodils are coming up. Everywhere I looked it was green in my little valley.

Something special that our tree guy Kyle, did is in the picture below.

 This tree died and had to come down.

It was below my brother-in-law and his wife’s house right down our street, and was huge! The oak tree was magnificent and quite old and we all loved it. Sadly, the fire killed it but when Kyle took it down, he noticed this lightning like split within the tree. He cut a large D for Diener, in the remains and told us it was our new symbol. The Lightning D Ranch. It warms my heart each time I see it.

So back to the grind. I am going to make more notes tonight and tackle the book some more tomorrow with some fresh ideas on how to improve it. My editor Jen, is a wonderfully knowledgeable gal and giving me sound advice but in the end, I have to make some tough decisions and stick to them. This book has been my heart for more than the past two years and I want to make it shine.

Happy Easter friends. May you all enjoy this springtime season.

 

Title Change/ Editing Process

 So after all the voting

on the title, I have to say, my first thought won out. I know, I know, I let you all weigh in on the title and for the longest time I left it as, OUT Of The Ashes. The thing is, I had this gut feeling it wasn’t right. And no, I won’t be using this as the book cover but it was fun to create anyway.

Before I went to the SFWC, (San Francisco Writers Conference), back in February, I researched the title and found there were multiple titles of OUT OF THE ASHES, due to the whole rising of the Phoenix idea. There have been both books and movies using this title over the past couple of decades. If I too used this then my book wouldn’t stand out at all. That’s why when I pitched the book to agents and others, I used my original title of AFTER THE FIRE.

Since you must know by now that the pitch went well and I found both the editor I wanted and agent as well, I am now in the stressful but exciting period of waiting to hear back from my editor!

The worst part of letting someone read your book is wondering if you are any good! Will someone who doesn’t know you well, hasn’t loved you your whole life, think your work of 2 years is worth a damn? It’s what Brene Brown would call, “Daring Greatly!” I put myself out there and hoped for the best. I entered the great arena and most vulnerably handed over my precious work to be critiqued. I’m either brave or out of my freakin’ mind.

Either way, I have never felt more alive! I have been writing more this past month than I have in quite awhile. I not only have been coming up with alternate scene ideas for my book for the rewrite, but I also have started to create a new blog, (to be revealed very soon), and have been doing researching for my new book. It’s like I can’t stop!

So I should hear something this weekend from my editor Jen, who I think is a pretty amazing person. She has been so supportive with her ideas, and very patient with all my questions, answering each one in detail. I must admit, I’m pretty anxious.

I have been terrible in blogging these past months in a timely fashion, which I understand is NOT conducive to a successful following, but I am going to change that now that the book’s completion is near. I DID finish the first draft in full and edited it to the best of my ability before I submitted it to the editor. However, that’s what I’m paying her for. She’s making suggestions for it to be better.

The process of getting it to an agent follows once the manuscript is spotless. I will attempt to post once a week from this point forward. I have a goal to submit it to the agent by June. Fingers crossed!

I am hoping this finds each and every one of you happily anticipating this Spring of 2018. It’s starting out quite blustery, but I feel it’s going to be a marvelous year. Beauty is all around us and I am constantly reminded of how blessed I am to live in California when I am surrounded with it’s splendor.

Count your blessings and thanks for reading.

 

Patti Diener’s Book /Making Progress

  The SFWC2018

(which translates to; San Francisco Writers Conference 2018), was so worth my time and money! The trip was a huge success in education, making new friends, and connections for both my heart and my book. What a whirlwind of events!

Thursday, upon checking into the Intercontinental Mark Hopkins Hotel, I felt as if I’d come back to see an old friend. The first experience I had there set me on my course for finding the people I needed to guide me on my author journey. This year I knew better of what to expect and how better to navigate the conference, thus making better use of my time. I was so excited!

If you’ve ever been to any sort of multi-day conference, you know when you arrive you are full of excitement and energy. By day two, you are settling into the conference mode and mingling, class hopping, and filling your brain with as much information as possible. Upon day three, classes are harder to concentrate on and the cocktail hour comes earlier and lasts longer than the previous two days! My husband says, “the mind can only absorb what the ass can endure,” and I am here to tell you, that is very true! All that being said, I was still very happy to be there by morning 4 and Agent Speed Dating!

 Grace Cathedral

is an inspiring and beautiful church in San Francisco, just a block from the hotel, and I spent the first two days looking at it through my hotel window. By Saturday morning, I was feeling a little overwhelmed and thought maybe the fresh air would do me good. I took a walk. The unusually warm breeze for February blew through my hair as I walked up California Street to a small park just across from the church and the Huntington Hotel. People were running in shorts and t-shirts and I thought, wow! How blessed am I to be in the city on such a gorgeous day!

After walking around I pulled the door open to the majestic Grace Cathedral and entered the silent basilica. I sat in the back pew just taking in the feeling of peace and gratitude. I realized I was there for a purpose that hadn’t hit me until I sat down. I needed guidance. I hadn’t stepped into a church for awhile, and I’m not even Catholic, but God and I go way back so I figured he wouldn’t mind much of my denomination. I prayed.

Whatever my purpose was at this conference, I knew I had my plans, but thought if God could just guide me to the people I needed to have in my life it would be better than me trying to figure this out on my own. When I left the church, I felt a sense of relaxation about the entire weekend. Whatever would be, would be. I was just happy for the experience.

I went to the SFWC2018 with a purpose. I told myself, I was going to find an agent that I could work with to help me publish my book! What I left with was far more important. I met and connected with new writers from around the world, found old friends, and serendipitously met an editor I am going to work with, just on an elevator ride from the lobby to the 10th floor! Last minute, I also decided to pay extra to meet for a 15 minute conversation with and agent of my choice. She and I had good chemistry, and she gave me sound advice. She also was NOT the person I believed I would try to connect with originally. She ended up being the person I was meant to connect with.

By Sunday morning, when I went in to pitch my book at the Agent Speed Dating, I was ready! When I found this same agent again, she smiled at me, said, “You don’t have to pitch me, I am already interested in the book,” and she gave me her card! Provided that the editor and I polish my manuscript, she said I could just send her the whole thing. I’d say that is a pretty darn good start!

 Driving home

I felt accomplished because I did what I set out to do and more! My heart was full from the new friends I met and old ones I reconnected with, and moving forward with my book I also realized the original title I had for it, After the Fire, is what I’m purposing to use. It sat better than the title, Out of the Ashes, with every person I spoke to at conference. First gut instincts are usually best.

I will keep you all posted on my progress and know we are one step closer to getting this baby into book form! I hope to have a copy into each of your hands soon. It’s a process. It’s not something you can rush if you want it done right, but I am feeling like the train is still moving forward.

Love to one and all!

Book Blogging From #SFWC18

  Sunset in San Francisco

is remarkable when there are clear skies, warm temperatures, and you are drinking a glass of wine at the Top of The Mark! This is what they are all out there talking about when they say, “be in the moment.”

I am a nearly 50 year old woman, with an empty nest, a husband at home I love, and a dream I’ve had since I was in the 5th grade. I am a writer. With or without an agent, with or without a published book, I am still a writer, and I still dream to live a comfortable life as a writer….and live happily ever after.

From the time I read my first novel without my teacher selecting it for me, I knew I was going to write. I can thank V.C. Andrews for Flowers in the Attic, in planting that seed. I chose that book from a shelf of many when my dad said to go select a book and read it in his office until it was time to go home, when I was 11 years old.

I had to pass time at my father’s deli and he had a paperback book shelf. I went and grabbed the book for it’s cover. As a librarian, I know book covers sell books! Maybe I should have gone into graphic or book jacket design, but anyway it sold me at 11 years old. I only looked inside the book because the cover was amazingly haunting and engaging! The story proved to be just the same.

Anyway, here I am more than 3 decades later, and I still have the same dream. I am in San Francisco, California, gearing up to pitch agents on Sunday about the book I’ve written as a genre/ romance fiction about the Valley Fire in Lake County, California.

Funny note: Tonight I was at the networking party and milling around. I bought a glass of wine, bought a few books, (after all, it’s not hording if it’s books), and basically killing time until I collapsed in my room for the night. When who do I see as I’m about to leave, but the agent I pitched my book to a year ago at the Redwood Writers Conference, Laurie McLean! She loved the idea of my book then but I only had a 1/2 written manuscript and she only looks at completed manuscripts so I had to wait until it was done. Well, I decided to talk to her briefly. Not an easy task! She is the director of this conference and very much in demand. So I see she acknowledges me, laughs and shakes my hand, almost like she remembers me but I’m sure she couldn’t remember why. Then another presenter from the conference approaches her and it’s all over. My brief connection is lost.

Not overly dismayed, I politely retreated from the conversation and made my trek upstairs a flight to the elevator that would take me 8 more floors to my room. I was tired anyway. But who do you suppose was running to the elevator to join us but Laurie McLean! This time I decided it was a moot point to so late in the evening discuss work. We simply joked at how damn tired we all were. She left at the 5th floor and I smiled on the way to the 8th, realizing it was very early in this weekend to obsess about missed opportunities. I will have plenty before I leave. It’s only Thursday night.

  SFWC 2018

has started out with a bang. I reconnected with a friend from two years back. She is the one lady that talked me off a cliff last time I was at the SFWC pitching agents and nearly hyperventilated! Good times! I also met new friends from New Zealand, and Morgan Hill, California. Writers Conferences are a great place to collaborate with fellow writers, and I am so grateful to find my people. The next three days should prove to be very interesting!

Stay tuned to information on how this all pans out. As many of you already following know, I’m here to try and find an agent that fits well with me and my book.

Wishing you all love, light, and joy! From San Francisco,….. sleep well y’all!

*All pictures taken by me, Patti Diener.

2017 Blogging, Christmas, and a Literary Agent!

  Reflecting is normal

as the year comes to a close. I’m sure we all do it. These past few years I’ve felt like life has accelerated to the rate of hurry up and do what you really want to do, speed. I worry about running out of time.

I started this blog to build a better book. It was intended to get the word out that I was writing a book about the Valley Fire, and to include my friends and community in this journey I’ve been on since the fire happened in Lake County. As we all know, California has since been on a rollercoaster journey of tragedy, loss, rebuilding, restoring, and finding faith and strength where we’ve least expected. At times writing allowed me to vent, in other times though, I lost my ability to express myself entirely. Those of you whom it has hit hardest will understand what I mean.

But the remainder of the country isn’t exempt from their own tragedies. With hurricanes, tornados, shootings, and other acts of terrorism, we live in an uncertain world! It’s come to the point I don’t even want to turn on the news. So how do we move forward without living in fear? What can we do to make things better?

HOPE!

There still is hope! Each day I wake I feel hope for a good day. I believe it starts with me so I try my best to be in a good mood and make the day good for myself, my family, my students, and friends. The ripple effect is real!

This holiday season has continued to bring hope. I decorated less and spent more time helping where I could. I truly enjoyed my friends and family more this year than I have in years past and made time for people I hadn’t in a long while.

 In Murphys, California

we have friends we rarely see. They are a good solid 4 hours away and have lives just as busy as ours. We all attended the funeral of a mutual friend earlier this year and asked ourselves WHY we didn’t make more time to see one another. It was agreed that funerals were not going to be the only time we saw each other anymore, so on the first weekend in December, 7 of us drove to their house in Murphys, California, and spent the best time going to the town’s annual Christmas event. The entire town was open for shopping until late in the night, with fire pits lined down the main street of town, and lights on every building. A festive parade started it off, then hot chocolate, mulled cider, food, and wine were around every corner. Children in costumes ran by us as we stopped to talk with strangers around the warming fire, and my husband fell in love with a hound puppy. Christmas magic was all around and we ended the night visiting around a fire back at our friend’s home, reminiscing about old times.

This was the trend for our season, visiting with friends, doing things we never made time for in a long while, and just slowing life down to enjoy the moment. Each weekend was spent with friends and family.

I tried to think of what I’d write about this Christmas. I mean, really what hasn’t already been written about the holidays? The best I came up with was I found that even as I’m nearing 50 years old, (probably why I feel like I’m running out of time), I still feel curious about the world. I don’t feel this milestone birthday will make me depressed or anything, it’s just I am realizing we don’t live forever, and it’s kind of nice that I can still say my curiosity for life is as strong now as when I was a kid!

Moving into the New Year of 2018, I have so much I’m looking forward to! For starters, I’m going with my husband to visit our first born in the Portland, Oregon area soon and I can’t wait to see her. Children have a way of growing up and having their own lives whether you like it or not. But the excitement of a new city will be fun and I look forward to her playing tour guide to her parents. She only just moved there after Thanksgiving, but hearing the joy in her voice each day we talk makes me happy for her to begin her new life.

  The time we spend

with our family is always precious. Soon I will have an empty nest, (youngest moving this month), and instead of being sad, I’m finding hope for a future of new experiences. Staying curious!

Since the book is basically done, I am in the dreaded editing phase and it’s my least favorite part of writing! The romance novel taking place in the aftermath of the Valley Fire is finally going to be pitched this February at the San Francisco Writers Conference. Here’s a sample pitch………needs work but here goes:

After losing his fiancé in a terrible car accident, an embittered excavating contractor is sent to a rural town to help clean up after the Valley Fire and not only falls in love with the community, but with a local girl as well.

Synopsis: When Gabriel Hart came to Lake County, California, after the Valley Fire burned over 1,000 homes, all he had in mind was to help rebuild the community, not fall in love. But when his job put him up in a local hotel, he saw the most enchanting woman with green eyes!

Helping the fire victims to clean up their home sites on Cobb Mountain, Gabriel happened upon this woman once again. Sarah McKinney was helping her friend sift through the rubble of her burned home site just yards away from where Gabriel was working. Could it be fate?

With both Gabriel mourning the loss of his fiancé, and Sarah’s untimely loss of her young husband, the two find an unexpected bond that is undeniable and ignites a passion like no other! But will haunting pasts, long distances, and a secret Sarah keeps stand between their true love?

 In this story of catastrophic loss, community support, and renewed hope, two souls try to mend their broken hearts while assisting those who lost virtually everything in the fire.

So wish me luck my friends and followers! I hope all my editing between now and then will polish the book so it’s ready to submit.

Many blessings to you all in the New Year of 2018! Stay hopeful, stay curious, spend much time with loved ones, and slow your life down to take care of yourself! Remember to breathe, and always drink the good wine, and read a good book!

* Picture of typewriter & town of Murphys from Google Images. Patti & daughter Fallon taken by me!

 

 

 

 

Fire! We’ve Had Enough!

 Fire! I hate it!

It’s become all too familiar now, the procedure for preparing to evacuate. The sickening feeling of not knowing where to go or when you will feel safe enough to sleep! The worry about your loved ones that are away from you, especially those fighting on the fires! Like so many others, I’ve had it!

With so many fires burning at the same time, it’s difficult to relax even if you are safe because you constantly are waiting for the other shoe to drop! With resources striped to bare bones and limited access to outside help, anxieties are high! The fire personnel are exhausted, and with so many fires burning, all of Californians are sharing these finite amount of resources! For some, it’s simply not enough.

I have to give it to the fire personnel! I truly don’t know how they do what they do without sleep! They stay up and live on adrenaline and caffeine for days, all the while having to make split second decisions, and perform physically demanding jobs! They are really an amazing breed!

The Sulphur Fire, here in Lake County, has eaten up approximately 150 homes, according to a recent report, but the true count won’t be made until the fire is completely contained. This being the third fire season in a row that our small county has had catastrophic fires, it has truly taken a hideous toll on our community and the people in it. We are all trying to be strong, but enough is enough!

These past few days I have tried practicing gratitude more than ever! Unlike the last two big fires, I didn’t have to evacuate this time! I am prepared to but don’t have to, and that is a blessing. I also am grateful my kids are here because phone and internet communications have been down, (until today), and since I’m such a worrier, it is a huge relief to me. Being able to listen for more than 48 hours to the scanner has also helped. Since I haven’t been able to call out or get any TV news, I at least have been able to monitor my husband’s whereabouts, hearing his voice periodically, and getting reports on conditions over the air.

All this devastation has brought on some major philosophical conversations in my household. Just what is happening in our world? Where are we (as people), headed? What does the future hold? Very deep conversations. It’s enough to make your head spin that’s for sure. But no matter what comes, we will do it together. Me, my family, my neighbors, friends, and community, will all do it together.

I am including this short Youtube video clip from the first morning after the Sulphur Fire, that was filmed from the lake. Local guys showing perspective from the water.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8FSXV04LwA

I pray tonight for cooperative weather conditions, for strength and guidance for our emergency personnel, and for shelter and peace to those who have been displaced and possibly lost it all! It is a difficult time with much uncertainty. In our neighboring counties that are struggling terribly, I pray relief comes soon for you all as well. Californians are all in need of help and prayers.

  • Photos 1. by Kurt Jensen 2. by Bob Minena 3. by Kurt Jensen and video clip Youtube